Sexy vs Dorky

I was going to say that I finally got around to seeing “Eagle Vs Shark“, but it’s only been out for two weeks, so I’m not really slow off the mark. It just seems that everyone who’s cool has already seen it, either at the film festival or by being first in line for general release.

I didn’t see it with a large audience, so many of the opportunities for big laughs were lost or reduced to a smattering of chuckles, but I still found it really funny. But what I got out of it more was the film’s heart.

Before I saw it, I’d heard rumours of a Napoleon Dynamite-esque style, and I knew that the main characters were in the their early 30s, so I wondered how that was going to work. My biggest fear was that main characters, Jarrod and Lily, would come across as a couple of retarded adult-children, and the film would be marred by that.

But even though they were both really dorky and nerdy and awkward and embarrassing and geeky, it still worked and still felt real (as much as real can feel in such a film).

And this is my theory why.

In films, while it’s expected that teenagers will be nervous and awkward when they’ve met someone new and are falling in love, adults don’t get to act the same way. Adults in films are meant to be all cool and sexy. Adults are meant to rip each other’s clothes off and have hot sex straight off. They’re not meant to agonise over hand-holding or have firty but awkward conversations about video games first.

But I don’t think much changes with boyfriend/girlfriend stuff, no matter how much older you get. Falling in love is still awesome, and being dumped still sucks. Your heart doesn’t become numb to such emotions just cos you’re not a crazy teenager any more.

Maybe it’s because we tend to be teenagers when we’re first on the receiving end of these emotions that we think of them as teenage emotions – and for some of us who pair up early and happily, they never show up again. But those of us who have experienced a romantic ending or a beginning will have felt that teenageness showing up again.

So while the courtship of Jarrod and Lily is a bit of an exaggeration, it still manages to capture the craziness involved in that for anyone.

And that’s why, in a funny little way, “Eagle Vs Shark” rang truer for me than any Hollywood romantic comedy has ever managed to.

Or maybe I’m just a dork.

10 thoughts on “Sexy vs Dorky”

  1. As an aside, I thought Napoleon Dynamite was a complete arsehole. Some aspect of that movie that everyone liked, completely passed me by. Why were people wesring “Vote Pedro” tee-shirts? Were these people admirable in some way? Every single character (to me) was completely unlikeable.

    What was your opinion of that movie? (Feel free to disagree).

  2. i would have thought that getting older almost certainly makes you waaaaay less cool. although i suppose that depends on your definition of cool.

    cool = wearing all the right clothes, being skinny and being able to drink / drug yourself stupid without much consequence.


    cool = knowing yourself well enough to handle most social situations with ease

    eh what old chap?

    i really like your blog robyn … by the way. and thank you for being kind to me at public address!

  3. ps i really liked napoleon dynamite. that character mainly, but the rest were ok as support crew. i thought the dance at the end was one of the most beautiful and inspiring things i’ve ever seen. funny enough, i watched it with two people who are old enough to be into serious coolness deficit and they didn’t get it at all. didn’t find it funny, were relieved when it was finished.

  4. I enjoyed Napoleon Dynamite, but not as much as younger, male audiences did. Though, the last time I saw it, with a bunch of people who were drunk, stoned and/or just really tired, it was really tedious.

    I still like the dancing scene. Everyone should have a secret hidden talent like that.

  5. Maybe I have lost my “cool” – did it happen when I had a child???
    I watched about 1/3 of Napoleon Dynamite and couldn’t take any more. Maybe I should give it another try – I never got to the end so obviously missed out on the dancing scene.

  6. Mel, you can watch the dance scene thanks to the magical powers of YewChoob. The set-up is that Napoleon has been secretly practising to a ’90s hip-hop dance instruction video, and when called upon to provide a skit for Pedro’s class president campaign, he debuts his dance moves.

    Anon, thank you. You’re very kind. r u hot?

  7. Rebecca, I just found your first comment sitting in my spam comments area! Oddly enough, it reckoned only the first one was spam, but not the second. I have since liberated it and taught my spam detector a lesson.

  8. Robyn this blog is so cute. I don’t know if I’ve had enough dating experience or birthdays to qualify this response, but I don’t think I’ve ever been cool or NOT awkward in any kind of romantic situation, unless alcohol was involved. Even then, the drunken haze merely fooled me into a temporary state of non-awkwardness.

    And I think talking about video games is the epitome of cool, haha. Much better than talking about money, jobs or cars. Ick.

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